Footnote-Sex In The City

This blog is in response to an email from a friend after she read my (as she put it - long email).

Here was her take; thanks to her and some other lovely ladies not afraid to speak their mind......

Feminism is the freedom to choose anything we want; sex, motherhood - kids, career, wife, friends, fashion, men, whatever!

Famous Quotes

Barbara Jordan:All my growth and development led me to believe that if you really do the right thing, and if you play by the rules, and if you've got good enough, solid judgment and common sense, that you're going to be able to do whatever you want to do with your life.

Bernadette Devlin:Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win.

Elaine Heffner:Women do not have to sacrifice personhood if they are mothers. They do not have to sacrifice motherhood in order to be persons. Liberation was meant to expand women's opportunities, not to limit them. The self-esteem that has been found in new pursuits can also be found in mothering.

George Carlin:Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.


Mohandas K. Gandhi: Woman is the companion of man, gifted with equal mental capacity

Mohandas K. Gandhi:There is no occasion for women to consider themselves subordinate or inferior to men.

I'm tough, I'm ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay. ~Madonna Ciccone

You don't have to be anti-man to be pro-woman. ~Jane Galvin Lewis

The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it. ~Roseanne Barr

Nobody objects to a woman being a good writer or sculptor or geneticist if at the same time she manages to be a good wife, a good mother, good-looking, good-tempered, well-dressed,
well-groomed, and unaggressive. ~Marya Mannes

I ask no favors for my sex.... All I ask of our brethren is that they will take their feet from off our necks. ~Sarah Moore Grimké

There are very few jobs that actually require a penis or vagina. All other jobs should be open to everybody. ~Florynce Kennedy

Taught from infancy that beauty is woman's sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison. ~Mary Wollstonecraft


There you go, everyone has their take on the subject. Feminism can be misconstrued when we speak our mind. I don't think I ever considered myself a feminist, except for that fact that I am feminine...I grew up in a time when they told us you can be whatever you want to be and yet at the same time raised on the story of Cinderella (you are no one until a man comes to take you away, make you his bride and give you a wonderful life) are these two sides of the story not conflicting, and yet...somehow, subtly I believe in a little of both, maybe that's why as a modern day women I struggle with both sides of the fence....it would be nice if gender no longer played such a role in my existence.....as much as the fact that we are all human beings with the right to give, receive and just be......So I don't want to burn my bra....mostly I need it.....nor do I wish to spend all my life scrubbing floors behind the scene.... I want to garner as much respect and equality for the fact of being a stay at home mom of 10 years, who made her children, her home and her family the most important aspect of her being as I do for moving forward and working to build a life as a dynamic entrepreneur, who wants the best of both worlds. I remember once saying it was not easy but also not impossible, so I dare to dream.....just like Cinderella with a little dash of Captain Cook floating around in my veins........

As for where I stand at this moment on issues feminist or otherwise; I just want to know why there is no such word as Manist?

Thank you Jo.......as a successful illustrator and work at home mother of 2 you alas, are one of the women who continue to inspire me to believe in the best of both worlds....even on those days when conflict of interests arise.........Namaste